Look Forward!

“You’ll never find the right person if you don’t let go of the wrong one!”

I learned that the rough way!

Have you seen those shows on TV where they show those kind of people that really can’t let go of stuff? and they they show how they can’t even walk in their houses? It’s weird that we all look at them thinking: “poor man or woman, she has all this trash in her house that for some reason they can’t just throw away, how can they live like that? I could never live like that”

Well, let me tell you: most of us are EXACTLY like that, but just because it is seen as something more usual, we don’t get to be on TV and get help. Yes, we all have so much trash in our lives that we just can’t let go, even when we know that we should.

I used to think that especially as a woman, having not enough attention from our dads, or not having a male figure when we were young, makes us be attracted to the guys who give us the WRONG kind of attention that we “NEED.” But I’ve been starting to think that it is just an excuse.

Women are just so in love with sadness and pain. And I recently read a book about the psychology there is to this problem, and we don’t need a PhD. to understand this: WE NEED TO GET REAL AND LET GO. We just like to be treated like trash, and it’s just not right.

I was looking for quotes to start this entry, and believe me there’s millions of them! it was not hard at all. Someone decided to say that love is pain, and we all believed it.The media has a lot influence on this, yes. But we just really need to think about it! It’s not rocket science! If a guy or girl is not treating you well, let go!

I am a helpless romantic, and I used to think that risking everything, and just because I suffered for him, then he should be with me, because I am “so passionate.” But hey, guess what?? suffering for the one you love does not mean that you are passionate, and therefore you deserve them (or they deserve you).

If you are not suffering for someone’s love, it doesn’t mean that you don’t love them enough.. It means it’s healthy and makes you happy, instead of sad. Just as the quote says, you need to not waste time thinking, or suffering for someone who is making you and letting you feel that way. And all that time that you spent trying to be ‘good enough’ for someone who isn’t, the right one could’ve passed by.. and you missed it.

All those ghosts of people who hurt you, need to be thrown away. We fill our hearts with useless feelings, regrets, and memories that are blocking your way! just like the people with their houses full of stuff! we need to realize that the only person that can make you truly happy.. is yourself. And I learned that the hard way, but it was worth it! because now that my heart is clean! I was able to receive someone worth of being let in and I was able to love him with all my heart.

I would like so see more people happy and in love, with the right one. And when in doubt, just remember that God gave us like a ‘checklist’ to keep in mind for a healthy relationship on 1 Corinthians 13:4:

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rKkg-uKZr6A&feature=player_embedded
"You’ll feel love again
After the rain”