Women back in the 1940's were finally making our dreams as women come true!! I mean, The Women’s Army Corps (WAC) and Women Accepted for Volunteer Emergency Service (WAVES) were established, congress authorized women to serve in the U.S. Navy, Eleanor Roosevelt was appointed as a U.S. delegate, Alice Coachman became the first African American woman to win an Olympic gold medal, the All-American Girls Professional Baseball League is founded, etc etc etc!! all successes right?? We were finally becoming independent, strong, fearless women who were able to do anything.
But what happened?? now that we don't have to stay home, raise the kids, iron clothes, sew, paint and cook all day, what are we doing now?? I think that nowadays a woman who knows how to cook, sew, paint, wash and iron clothes right is very rare.. and don't even get me started on raising kids.. nowadays kids have no respect whatsoever towards parents.. and guys.. as much as i love you all.. u all became assholes and gentlemen are extremely close to extinction. I mean even men want to be women now!!
Don't get me wrong, I am a woman who loves to be strong, independent, and all those things that these hero women brought us. BUT! are we forgetting all the good things that NOT being SO independent taught our ancestors? Think about it, how many of our grandparents are divorced? it's not even close to the ratings from today.. how many broken homes? how many teen parents, single moms, abortions, etc..
Is it that we are taking advantage of so much freedom, but not the right way? or what is it??
MAYBE we just forgot, that all these women gave us the CHOICE to get out and be somebody BETTER, not give up our roles as women.. I think that these women's ideals were to brake us free from being treated as objects, and give us the opportunity to CONTRIBUTE to the world or whatever, so we could be heard.. not so we could forget about being a wife, a mom, etc. We even treat ourselves as objects nowadays.
Maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm right, but i just don't understand, I can't even decide which era was worse, back then or right now? Yeah we can vote, lead companies, go to college, be famous, etc. but look at what we are now.. We all grow up too fast, try drugs at 12? have sex at 13? be a single mom at 16? and all that and we don't even know how to cook, or even worse: how to make a decision.. and It's a cycle, cuz if our parents lived like this, then is allowed.. If they had a mentality like back in the 40's it would be a disaster! the worst!
so?? how do we live now??
I couldn't help but wander, all this came to my mind because someone told me I was being manipulated by my boyfriend.
I am personally fascinated by women in the 40's, I love how they were taught that you could only be a wife if you met the requirements, only if you were a real lady (not a whore wearing a 1 inch long skirt), then you could marry a real Gentleman (not a drug addict, women beating dude). If you think about it, it makes sense! it's like a princess story, but with the touch of reality.. You can't be a princess and have a decent prince if you don't meet certain requirements right?? It's the same thing!! I'ts just the way I see it, and I just think it's fascinating.
Anyway, about this person's comment.. IT got me thinking because the reason why she told me this, is because I like to at least try to be like these 40's women, I take care of my boyfriend like that and I am making an effort to learn how to cook (it's getting there! but I'm no chef!), I know how to sew, I love to read and learn about psychology and kids, and being a good parent, I don't believe in divorce, etc. I just feel kinda like this 40's women. And my boyfriend is kinda old fashion in some way too, so he lets me.. But is that behavior seen as manipulation? It's kinda fucked up! no wonder we have a terrible society.
I am not a fully 40's woman who doesn't speak, and He's not the controlling man like back then either. We share those 'old fashion' beliefs, but not exactly like people used to be, we also like to be modern! like we can talk and make decisions together instead of just dividing duties we can share them, like a 21st century couple.. but he's still kind, opens the door, takes care of me, protects me, cares for the family approval, etc. like a gentleman. And he's called controlling now? I'm confused.
I think the way of thinking like this person's comment it's just forgetting why women stood up and wanted to take over. We wanted to take over and when we were on the right direction we forgot our goal. we ended up giving one step forward and two steps back.
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